Tag: self-care
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Love People Well, Part 2: Honoring Yourself
Love People Well: Part 2 is about honoring yourself. Because accepting how someone loves you is not the same as settling. You can appreciate someone’s effort and still know the connection doesn’t land where it needs to. Difference is beautiful. Deprivation is not. This is the part where we learn that loving well includes loving…
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When Love Speaks Two Languages
Love has always felt emotional to me…connection, depth, and the sense of being known. But a recent conversation made me realize something I’d missed: not everyone experiences love through feelings. Some love through choice, intention, and daily commitment. And when those two expressions meet without trying to change each other, something surprisingly safe and beautiful…
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This One’s for Her: You Were Never Too Much
Years ago, I wrote a letter to my younger self, fresh out of college and feeling like I had arrived. I genuinely thought I was writing from a healed place (chile…I know, right?). Then I did it again after I got married…and whew, the delusion was even stronger that time. Lord. A few years ago,…
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The Ache of Almost
There’s a kind of hurt I didn’t know how to name for a long time. It wasn’t heartbreak in the traditional sense, nobody left me at the altar, nobody died. But something did end. Something I believed in.Something I hoped for. It’s the ache of almost.Of getting so close to the thing you prayed foronly to watch…
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Forgiveness, Release, & Rebuilding from Brokenness
Friends! I’m back again! Listen, your girl is on a roll—I’m really trying to stay consistent! We’re finishing this “Healing in Stages” series with the final post: Forgiveness, Release, & Rebuilding from Brokenness. If you’ve been following along, you know we’ve been walking through some real, deep stuff together—acknowledging the wound, processing the pain, and…
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The Journey to Boundaries
Learning to Protect My Healing After confronting the lies I believed about myself, I realized that understanding my worth was just the beginning. The next step in my healing journey was learning to protect that newfound sense of self through setting boundaries. Hey fam! Today, I’m closing out the Unshaded Truth series with something that…
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Unraveling the Lies
Confronting the Deep-Seated Beliefs that Shaped Me Disclaimer: This post reflects my personal journey of discovering deep-seated beliefs and patterns that influenced my relationships. It is not meant to blame or shame anyone involved in my past but to share my experience in hopes of encouraging others who may be struggling with similar challenges. Healing…
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Abandonment’s Legacy
Our early experiences can have a profound impact on how we navigate relationships as adults. For years, I didn’t realize how much my past was influencing my present—shaping my actions, my expectations, and even my sense of self-worth. It wasn’t until I started recognizing these patterns that I began the journey toward healing. Along the…
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When Truth Shatters Trust
Uncovering the truth about my father shook me, but what followed was an even greater test—the realization that someone I deeply trusted had kept this secret from me for my entire life. The discovery left me questioning everything I thought I knew about family and trust. The path to rebuilding after such a deep wound…
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The Phantom Father
For years, I fought to earn his love, convinced that his absences were reflections of my own shortcomings. I was sure that if I could just try harder, be better, he would finally choose me. Then, at 35, I discovered the truth that unraveled everything I thought I knew about myself.
UnShaded Revelations 