UnShaded Revelations

 

When my husband and I (first) married, I was so enthralled with being his wife.  I made sure whenever I was speaking of him, I said “MY husband” (emphasis on MY)…just because I liked the way it sounded. I wanted to be around him constantly. If we weren’t together we had some form of communication going on…(we were) on the phone, texting, Facebook, IM, etc…you name it, we had it going.

 Typical newlywed behavior.  (Don’t get me wrong, I’m still just as crazy about CFJ, as I was when we first married).  MY newlywed behavior was almost to a fault. I believe I was so caught up with being his wife that I had forgotten who I was purposed to be.

My identity became “Corey’s wife”.

I walked into the “Pastor’s Wife” role and had to get acquainted with it quickly.  I was overwhelmed with trying to make sure I did everything just right (as to not cause any other headache) that I was on my way to losing me. Yes, my first ministry is my husband…mind you, I said “first” not ONLY.

I had accomplished things prior to being married, but for some reason, (in my eyes) all of that paled in comparison to what my husband had going on.  I was gone, for real, y’all.  To be quite frank, my husband and I hit a SEVERE rough patch (during this time) and I couldn’t figure out why…God revealed it to me…months later…my focus was OFF. I was so focused on being the perfect wife and perfect Pastor’s wife that I had completely abandoned His purpose for me.  It wasn’t until I refocused my attention on God, and not Corey exclusively, that rough patch cleared…

Women, we often get so caught up in our spouse’s/significant other’s goals, dreams, aspirations, and vision that we inadvertently put our own calling, dreams, goals, etc on hold.  Yes, we’re called to be their help mate.  Their support.  Their encourager. Their think tank. Their voice of reason.  Their sounding board.

But is that ALL you’re called to do?  For some the answer might be yes, but for me, the answer is no.  I’m MORE than JUST his wife. Don’t get me wrong I LOVE being his wife, but that’s just a portion of who I am. I’m a valuable asset to the Kingdom and SO ARE YOU.

You were chosen for this walk for a reason. You’re more than just the arm candy. You don’t have to be the best hat wearer, the best dresser, or baddest shoe wearing (know I love me a good shoe) woman, but BE the BEST YOU in Christ you can be! Don’t get lost in His shadow!

I didn’t fully understand it until I sought God for direction.  I had to ask God to help me regain focus.  He had to show me how to be Corey’s wife AND all that He has called me to be.

It’s simple.  God has called you to BE GREAT.  BElieve in God. BElieve in YOURself. Seek Him for guidance.  Find YOUR purpose.

MORE than JUST HIS WIFE…

~Lady CMJ

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